Questions To Ask Before You Get Married: The Past | North Carolina Wedding Planner

It is so very important for couples to communicate during marriage, but even more so before they take a walk down the aisle. Over the next few weeks we're going to explore some important questions to discuss with your future spouse before your big day.

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Today's topic: The Past

Are there is childhood experiences that affect your behavior or attitude?

Is there anything in your past that I should be aware of?

Are you comfortable continuing this relationship if there are things in my past that I'm not willing to share with you?

Have you ever been able to overcome a bad habit? If so, what?

Have you ever been involved in any criminal activities? What were they?

Did your mother or father abuse each other or you in any way?

Have you ever been violent is past relationships?

Do you keep letters and memorabilia from past relationships? Why or why not?

What did you dislike the most about your previous partners?

If your past partners listed your most negative characteristics, what would they be?

Could any feelings of affection and romance be revived if you met a previous partner even if you felt a strong commitment to me?

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Questions To Ask Before You Get Married: Sex, Romance, & Love | North Carolina Wedding Planner

It is so very important for couples to communicate during marriage, but even more so before they take a walk down the aisle. Over the next few weeks we're going to explore some important questions to discuss with your future spouse before your big day.

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Today's Topic: Sex, Romance, & Love

What is the best way for me to show that I love you?

What do I do that causes you to question my love?

If I put on weight, will it affect our sexual relationship? How?

If we eliminated physical attraction from our relationship, what would be left?

What turns you off sexually?

Is it important for you to know that I'm a virgin? Why or why not?

How would our relationship be affected if we were unable to have children?

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Questions To Ask Before Marriage:

It is so very important for couples to communicate during marriage, but even more so before they take a walk down the aisle. Over the next few weeks we're going to explore some important questions to discuss with your future spouse before your big day.

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Today's Topic: Finance

Will we have a budget?
 Do you prefer separate bank accounts or assets in different names? Why?
Who will pay the bills?
What are your feelings about saving money?
 What are all your current personal debts?

How often do you use credit cards, and what do you buy with them?

How do you feel about helping me pay my debts?

What justifies going into debt?

How should we prepare for a financial emergency?

Do you feel stress when facing financial problems? How do you deal with that stress?
Do you feel that lack of money is a good reason not to have children?
When our child is born, will he or she go to daycare or will one of us stay home to take care of the child? Who will it be?

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Questions To Ask Before Marriage: Children | North Carolina Wedding Planner

It is so very important for couples to communicate during marriage, but even more so before they take a walk down the aisle. Over the next few weeks we're going to explore some important questions to discuss with your future spouse before your big day.

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Today's Topic: Children

How long would you like to wait to have children?

If we were unable to have children, would you want to adopt?

When we have children, who will handle their needs?

Do you plan to raise your children the way you were raised, the way I was raised or a mixture of both?

What types of discipline would you use to correct a child's behavior? Did your parents use these or have you developed them on your own?

Other than formal schooling, what types of education will our children get and how will they get it?

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Questions To Ask Before Marriage: Miscellaneous | North Carolina Wedding Planner

It is so very important for couples to communicate during marriage, but even more so before they take a walk down the aisle. Over the next few weeks we're going to explore some important questions to discuss with your future spouse before your big day.

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Today's Topic: Miscellaneous Questions

Are you closer to your mother or father? Why?

What influence, if any, do you believe my family should have on our relationship?

Is there anyone close to you who feels we should not get married? Why?

Do you believe that our parents should know our financial condition, whether good or bad? How far should this go?

How would you rank all of the priorities in your life: work, school, family, spouse, friends, hobbies, and church? Does your ranking reflect the amount of time you spend on each?

Do you prefer a set daily work schedule or flexible work activities and timetables?

Do you like pets?

What do you fear?

How do you feel about having guns in our home?

Do you harbor any racial prejudice?

How would you react if our son or daughter told us they were gay?

What are your views on pornography?

What health problems do you have?

Have you ever had any psychological problems?

When you are in a bad mood, how should I deal with it?

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Questions To Ask Before You Get Married: The Future | North Carolina Wedding Planner

It is so very important for couples to communicate during marriage, but even more so before they take a walk down the aisle. Over the next few weeks we're going to explore some important questions to discuss with your future spouse before your big day.

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Today's Topic: The Future

Would you prefer to live in the city, the country, or by the beach? Why?

If I wanted to move away from our families for work, would you support me?

How do you feel about having our parents come to live with us if the need arises?

How will we schedule holidays with our family?

Is there anything about marriage that frightens you?

Is there anything you would regret not being able to do or accomplish if you married me?

Do you anticipate maintaining your single lifestyle after our wedding?

How are we different? Could this be a conflict in the future or do our differences complement each other?

How did your family resolve conflicts when you were growing up? Do you still resolve conflicts this way? What do you plan to change for our future family?

How would it affect you if I were to travel on my own frequently?

How will you support my hobbies?

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Questions To Ask Before You Get Married: Trust | North Carolina Wedding Planner

It is so very important for couples to communicate during marriage, but even more so before they take a walk down the aisle. Over the next few weeks we're going to explore some important questions to discuss with your future spouse before your big day.

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Today's Topic: Trust

Is trust automatic until something occurs that takes it away, or does it evolve over time?

What do I do now or what could I do in the future that would make you mistrust me?

Who comes first, your spouse or your children?

Have there been times when you were uncomfortable with the way I behaved with the opposite sex? If so, when and what did I do?

Do you trust me with money?

Would you be comfortable transferring all your money into my bank account?

Is it okay for us to open each other's mail?

 

 

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Questions To Ask Before Marriage: Annoyances | North Carolina Wedding Planner

It is so very important for couples to communicate during marriage, but even more so before they take a walk down the aisle. Over the next few weeks we're going to explore some important questions to discuss with your future spouse before your big day.

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Today's Topic: Annoyances

What does my family do that annoys you?

Is there anything you do in your line of work that I would disapprove of or that would hurt me?

What is nagging? Do I nag? How does it make you feel?

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When do you need space away from me?

Do you approve, without reservation, of the way I dress?

Do you believe that you should stick with a marriage if you are unhappy all the time?

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Questions To Ask Before Marriage: Communication | North Carolina Wedding Planner

It is so very important for couples to communicate during marriage, but even more so before they take a walk down the aisle. Over the next few weeks we're going to explore some important questions to discuss with your future spouse before your big day.

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Today's Topic: Communication

What did you admire about the way your mother and father treated each other?

 

What is the best way for me to communicate difficult feelings about your so that you are not offended?

 

Whenever we have difficult feelings about each other, should we remain silent, say something as soon as the difficult feelings arise, wait a certain amount of time before raising the issue, or do something else? If so, what?

 

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Do you feel you could communicate with me under any circumstance and about any subject?

 

What makes you not want to talk to me?

 

If you always say you are going to do something but never do it, what is the most effective way to bring this problem to your attention?

 

Who should know about any arguments we have?

 

 

 

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